I Do (?)

Currently listening: Plumb, Lifehouse and Audio Adrenaline.
Hoping: Take more pics, haven't been taking much.
Doing mostly: Sleeping, sweet sleep. one of God's best creation.


Just got home not too long ago from a meet up with a couple of church mates whom i haven't seen in awhile, one even just got home from Australia not too long ago, so it was good. If not i don't know when i would actually meet up with them.

It was pretty early into the night, but the married couple deemed late and was looking pretty worn out and was ready to head home, while usually for me the night was too young.

Does marriage actually make you boring??

Ok let me try to analyze.

First you gotta invest in making the effort to obtain a girl friend (for me ler, boyfriend if you all are girls) : Investment
now of course not every tom, dick and harry or in this case sue, mary and maria can be your girl friend right? Unless you're playing around or have really low standards or you're blind, or well, you were meant to be with them.
Getting a girl to be your girlfriend gonna be tough, first must be friends :(
Then must be her best friend, then must have the guts to pop the question and prepare for 90% chance of rejection.

Ok, if you pass that, congratulations! Now the bloody hard part kicks in: Maintenance.
Maintaining a girl friend is hard in my opinion, unless the girl is wholly devoted to you and submissive, i think most guys find it hard to maintain it.
You gotta make it stay fresh, keep her attracted to you.
Hardest part is to BE LOYAL to her.
Almost (no empirical evidence to back this up) all the time when you have a girlfriend, A LOT of hot girls who ain't your girl friend will start popping up in your life, most of the time making you sway your devotion from your current girl to another, or at least think, "Damn, did I get a gf too early while there are plenty of girls to consider?"

Also, financial is a problem, unless you're a rich brat or working, i doubt you have the money to go dating, you REALLY wanna spend your parent's hard earned money on another individual? hmm?
And if your gf is high maintenance, your wallet is screwed, always must pay for her, fetch her around. But if your gf don't mind spending time with you as dating, or go out mamak or use public transport, then count yourself awesomely fortunate.

Last but not least, if you let your gf be boss over you, meaning you always do what she says, you're also screwed, first you will have less friends, then you will spend too much time interacting with her, pretty much you're a prisoner in your own home or her home or of her.

Ok say you got through all of those, and still in a relationship, crap, you are good, you made it!
So whats the next step? : Seal the Deal.
Yea, propose to her, you idiot!
Assuming you gonna give up a lot of freedom, hang out time, mamak time, talking to other girls a lot, cannot be sloppy, money is now shared, cannot buy your stuff, manga and anime will be thrown out the window, football or any sports you like and time spent significantly reduced.
Of course got perks too, but i think cost outweighs benefits.

Ok, proposing, unless your gf is artistic and like weird stuff, don't bet that your gf gonna fall for your "Fig ring", "can ring", "diamonds don't matter cheapass ring". Girls already fall for the advertisement devil's trap that diamonds are symbols of love! which is total bullcrap.
So you gonna spend a lot on the stupid ring.
Then you have to find the right time to propose.
NO! NO! Don't do stupid things like banner proposal or billboard, it's stupid, waste of money and i think not romantic.
Do stuff like sing with a guitar (cliche but girls sucker for it), or do a broadway or something out of the ordinary so you can brag to your friends and kids later.

Assuming she said "yes." you're good to go!
Next is: Pay the price.... wait for it..... FOREVER!

First, wedding is bloody expensive, unless your family don't mind some non-cliche weddings, (I hate chinese weddings, my wedding will be awesome). You're screwed financially, one wedding cost a bomb, bride's wedding dress, pro photographer (that's why now perk of being into photography so your chun friends can take your pics for free, *cough*hoc mun*cough, oh they must be good la, so er, no offense if i call someone else if you suck in it), dowry (if it still exist), wedding dinner etc etc!

Ok, after all that hassle, you're married! You experience things for the first time in your life like making love, having a companion at home, someone to cook for you (like a maid) etc. Also I am assuming you don't sleep around much ler.

Few years down the road, you finally starting to know your partner, and you either accept and reject their true self, not only that, wife wants your commitment, and so she wants you home all the time and spend 'quality' time and less with your buddies, whom i think are also important.
You work from 9-5, come home exhausted, but wife wants to talk and ask you take care of kids.
She forbids you from reading manga, playing games, online, watching "unproductive" movies etc etc.
You have no time for guitar, no time to climb up the corporate ladder (if you lazy due to marriage commitments la), no time for other social interaction, no time for exercise (which explains the tummy bulging out), all you can do is hope your brat kid grow up fast so you can retire and catch up on time lost due to marriage.

Then you die.

What if you were single slightly longer?
Scenario changes.
You focus on work, be at the top of ladder, and now girls admire you more, easier to get gf, financial wise no problem, house and car you got, pay for wedding and diamonds? Small expenses versus the amount of business class trips you make. Wife wants you around the house, you got 3G phone, can always "spend quality time" since you can see her while making a call, and because you're at the top of the ladder, a lot of parties and business calls to make, your wife would and should understand. So you got a life outside of house. Wife complains you not helping, hire a maid, you got enough savings so no need rely on your brat kid to grow up fast, can take it slowly and enjoy life while having everything else.

So why rush into marriage or even looking for a gf?
Chill man.



Sigh, I'm still single.

-One By One-