Today's topic, the dreaded BGR stuff, but leaning towards marriage more la
being a christian, been bombarded with the same topic same vewrses same argument over and over for so many years, so you'd understand why i was kinda "whatever" during the entry of this post.
First we were asked to list down top 10 important criteria for our future spouse, i can tell you what it used to be my answer, but now, my answer changed, caving in to pressure of time, i wrote down stuff like funny, guy mentality, tall, non-clingy, pretty to me etc etc
Obviously, i suppose to write down "same belief system" or "christian"
I guess i don't see it that way as much anymore, not because of any thing, but because nowadays, just so hard to define anything black and white, to me that is.
Someone did bet i would in the end marry a good christian girl, i wouldn't say its very far fetched, but i wouldn't say its definite either.
Problem is, and i concur with another friend, that two person who truly loves each other deserve to be together.
Anyway, i don't have money, or any securities i can offer to anyone right now, some girls do look for that, and i don't wanna see myself striving to fulfill any of that, because life so short, if you don't want to be together just because, then forget it la.
As of now, i may change my mind later though unlikely, i'd tell a girl, and i loosely use Peter's word from the Book of Acts:
"Silver and gold i have none, but whatever i have, i will give to you."
4 comments:
BRG? Boy Rejects Girl ? haha.. anyway,i like this entry, especially the last 2 paragraphs. *claps*
"two people who truly love each other deserve to be together"
it sounds like you've bought into the holywood idealization and glorification of romantic love, man.
to me, there are higher values, things more important than that. faith is one of them. that's why that criteria, of having the same belief system, is so crucial to me - and i dearly wish it were as crucial to every other christian.
i wonder what you mean by "hard to define anything black and white"?
some things may not be as obvious as black and white, but it would still be possible to discern darker gray and lighter gray. but all the metaphors can get confusing, so i wonder what is the specific definition in question here. =)
No, Hollywood bullshit i don't buy.
But to be fair, you found someone and married her, the point is there if faith, hope and love, it is not a written rule in the bible to be of the same belief system, its actually a by product of being a christian therefore we choose to find someone of the same belief system, yet in a corrupted world, the line between christian and not is blurred, therefore that was what i meant.
By consciously keep saying only want christian, you shut all doors towards others, i think that isn't being fair at all.
hmm, i c, the line between christian and non-christian is blurred. there are non-christians who behave more "christianly" than christians themselves, and (so-called) christians who behave like demons.
do i understand you correctly?
what do you mean by it not being fair?
let's say i'm a shallow male. so my highest priority is physical appearance. therefore my number one critera for a mate is that she must be physically attractive to me, and that shuts the door to all those that aren't. that's not fair either right?
so in this case i'm a christian. so my highest priority is (or should be) God. therefore my number one criteria for a mate is that she must be a christian too, sharing that same sense of priority.
sure it isn't fair, but when is choosing ever fair? i have to choose one person and leave out everyone else, of course it's not fair. that's like 3 complaining that he has not chance to be the solution of 1+1, only 2 can hold that position, how unfair!
so, fairness and unfairness aside, every person makes their choice according to what they value. if i value God, then i will make a choice that pleases Him. and the Bible, from OT (israelites forbidden to intermarry because they'd end up worshipping other gods) to NT (the famous 'unequally yoked' verse) makes it clear to me that i should choose a Christian.
so yes, the line between Christian and non-Christian is blur. therefore it is important for me to get to know the girl i think i love well enough to be reasonably sure of her Christianity. i don't think it's that hard.
what say you?
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